Shaping Young Minds

Parenting by definition is intended to support children emotionally, financially and physically i.e., support their all-rounded growth and circumvent anything that may harm them or possibly cause damage to their mental and physical health. However, parenting is not restricted to this notion. 

As soon as a baby is born, parents or guardians have a responsibility of providing the child with utmost care and affection. This is considered to be limited to the “growing up” phase of the child. However, as the child gradually gets older, they pick up everything from their caregivers. Be it their talking style or the way in which they carry themselves. 

There is an added responsibility on the caregivers to be cautious of their actions in general and their daily lives in particular . 

In addition to this, during the developmental phase of the children, the caregivers must be emotionally available at all times. The things they pick up on becomes their reality and interpretation of the world. 

For example, if the said caregiver is unavailable for the most tender part of the child’s progress ( an important day in the child’s life, for eh., a basketball game or a debate competition),  it may lead to a situation where the child might not be able to keep their faith in their caregivers later on. These children may start withdrawing from their primary support and develop trust issues. 

Caregivers or parents also have an added responsibility that includes providing financial support to the family. At times,this may mean that many of them are forced to spend time away from their children. 

Irrespective of life circumstances, a parent or carer managing themselves , being emotionally available and exhibiting affection towards the child are necessary for the child’s healthy, holistic development. 

In order to achieve this, caregivers have to make time for their kids even if their schedules are packed. Children’s opinions matter-it is important to acknowledge their take on certain situations. Early dismissal may lead to changes like self-doubt and poor self-esteem in the child . 

Conflict resolution between the caregivers must be projected in a healthy manner, particularly in front of their children. This allows room for children to learn how to healthily manage anger and resolve situations later on. 

Setting boundaries could pose a challenge for some. Saying ‘no’ is not easy, but it is important. The child has to learn the importance of failure and rejection, they cannot get everything handed to them on a platter. 

Being available at all times and carrying out daily tasks may sometimes prove to take a toll on the guardian’s health as well. It is always important to keep a healthy balance; a job, taking care of a child, housework etc. Take care of yourself as a parent or carer : you need it and you deserve it! Parenting takes time, energy and money and can be exhausting.  Find a balance: a routine that is well suited , an enjoyable hobby / outlet for your emotions and prioritise it too!